Spirituality

The paradox of spirituality is that it is closer to us than our breath, heartbeat, or thoughts. 

Spirituality

The paradox of spirituality is that it is closer to us than our breath, heartbeat, or thoughts. Yet despite this complete intimacy we search for it. This search is inevitable, if you are a seeker.

Yet as the Sufi remark has it, “This that we yearn for cannot be found by seeking, but only seekers find it.” Suffering propels seeking. And suffering brings people to psychotherapy, many of them seekers turning over every possible stone in their efforts to end suffering.

Psychotherapy contains a hidden depth where the agony of separation comes to an end. This depth is found in deep feeling: resonant, empathically shared, and openly allowed.

Deep feeling tends to flow out of pain. All of us intimately experience pain. Rarely does another join us in the midst of the pain. Such joining is an uncommon blessing. Rarely does another seem safe enough for such an opening into vulnerability – and the possibility of being fully felt by another.

Yet here, where the client feels felt by the therapist separateness begins to dissolve and the suffering evaporates. “Feeling felt” is experienced as love, and when separateness dissolves and suffering evaporates there is healing. The wholeness – the root meaning of healing – that was always here becomes nourishingly obvious.

"Thank you from the bottom of my opened heart."
B M

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