Psychotherapy contains a hidden depth where the agony of separation comes to an end. This depth is found in deep feeling: resonant, empathically shared, and openly allowed.
Deep feeling tends to flow out of pain. All of us intimately experience pain. Rarely does another join us in the midst of the pain. Such joining is an uncommon blessing. Rarely does another seem safe enough for such an opening into vulnerability – and the possibility of being fully felt by another.
Yet here, where the client feels felt by the therapist separateness begins to dissolve and the suffering evaporates. “Feeling felt” is experienced as love, and when separateness dissolves and suffering evaporates there is healing. The wholeness – the root meaning of healing – that was always here becomes nourishingly obvious.